***This is a promotional letter sent to me by a person named Christian Carter. Yeah i know I’m stupid enough to trust bulk letters like this but this letter makes sense.. or some of it. oh well just read it and judge for yourself.. is it true?
Hey Maria,
What makes a man want to stay single?
And
what makes a man want to stay single
and not have a relationship even when
he’s
dating an amazing woman?
Keep reading to find out.
Here’s something you should know…
Did you know that most men make up
their
minds about whether they’d "get serious" and
try out a relationship
within the first few
minutes of having met a woman?
It’s true.
If you don’t know what to say or do early on
to get a man’s
interest for the RIGHT REASONS…
then the first "exchanges" between you and
a man
could keep him from ever wanting to explore a
relationship with
you.
I see it happen all the time…
A woman meets a
fantastic guy and they hit
it off.
The chemistry is amazing. They
laugh, talk,
and have tons of things in common.
It just feels
right.
They go out several times and end up getting
"physical"
early on.
And since all the basic elements are there
to start a
great relationship, and this guy seems
like he could be "the one", the women
starts to
really open up.
But just as she’s becoming more and
more
EMOTIONALLY INVOLVED, the truth comes out…
The man has
ABSOLUTELY NO INTEREST in having
a real relationship.
He says
something like:
"It’s not you… it’s me."
Or…
"I’m just not interested in a relationship
right now."
Or…
"You’re great, but if we went out I know
we’d get serious
really quickly and I’m not
ready for all that. I don’t want to hurt
you."
Give me a nod here if you know what I’m
talking
about.
If you’ve experienced this kind of thing
before, then you
know that men will come up with
every excuse in the book to try and AVOID a
relationship.
Sometimes it seems like men’s minds’ are
simply
searching for every possible excuse or
way out.
That way they
don’t have to deal with the
fact that there’s an amazing woman right in
front of them who could be the love of their
lives.
So let me
ask you…
Why is finding the right person such a bad
thing to
men?
And what can YOU do as a woman to avoid all
these "traps" that
other women constantly walk
into and trigger with men that keep them
from
ever finding and starting the relationship that
they really want?
Good questions.
After years and years of thinking about
all
this, of talking to men and women, and spending
years observing and
studying what’s really going
on at a deeper level… I’ve discovered
something
that TONS of women are doing when meeting and
dating men that
INSTANTLY pushes that WITHDRAWAL
button where a man will not only not want to
get
any closer to a woman…
But he’ll want to get away from her
altogether.
It’s one thing when you’re dating a man
and
he tells you he doesn’t want a relationship, and
that he isn’t ready.
But here’s where it gets even more bizarre
and PREDICTABLE when it
comes to men and how
they think about dating and new
relationships…
After a man dates you and says he’s NOT READY
for
a relationship, unless you’re the unlucky
kind of woman who likes to torture
herself by
trying to CONVINCE a man that he should want a
relationship
with you… you listen and move on.
You try and respect the fact that,
for
whatever reason, he’s not in a place where
he’s capable of having a
real relationship.
But for lots of women, this is when the
unthinkable happens…
A few weeks or months later you can’t
believe
what you hear-
This same man who was dead-set on staying
single and not having a relationship is suddenly
IN LOVE with ANOTHER
WOMAN.
And to add insult to injury… things are
getting very
"serious" and moving very, very
quickly for him with this other
woman.
What!
What’s going on here?
For most women,
it’s in these moments that
a few "truths" become clear to you:
1) Men
don’t know what they want…
How many times have you had a man say
one
thing, or show you that he felt or thought one
thing… but then he
did something that was
completely the opposite?
Why does a man do
this?
Is he lying?
Did he mean to deceive you and hurt
you?
Or did he do this for another reason?
What if I told
you that when a man likes
you and is interested… he’ll often say
things
about the way he feels about you just to get your
interested and
attention?
And what if I told you that these things
that he thought
and felt could change VERY, VERY
QUICKLY as you’re getting to know each
other
and "dating"?
Would that change the way you think
about
men and how they don’t know what they want?
It
should.
2) You can’t trust what a man tells you…
If
you’re a woman who’s been hurt before
in a relationship, then odds are
you’re finding
it hard to believe a man or trust him much further
than you
could throw him.
It’s understandable.
But did you know that
if you’ve been hurt
from a past relationship and you carry some
doubt and
fear about men in general…
Then no matter how you try and come
across
to him… a man will sense this inside you when
you go out with
him - even if you don’t say
anything about it or mention it.
Your
inability to trust a man won’t allow
you to "connect" with him on a deeper
level.
And without that CONNECTION where a man
feels like you
really "get" him… he’ll never
get past that superficial level of
conversation
and start becoming EMOTIONALLY INVOLVED and
drawn to
you.
In other words… the fear that you have
that he’ll turn out
like other men that you’ve
known will "leak" out in subtle ways. And
it
will not only keep you both from growing
closer… but it will give
him the intuitive
feeling that something is off, and he’ll leave.
If you’re talking to a new man in your life
or dating and you have the bad
experiences of
the past in your mind… you’re practically
guaranteeing
failure for yourself and for the
relationship you’re trying to get
started.
Men don’t like women and don’t feel comfortable
or
ATTRACTED when a woman is full of doubt and
fear from her past
relationships.
It’s a HUGE turn off.
3) Men don’t make any
sense to you…
There’s something that keeps coming up
over and
over in my life that’s I find absolutely
fascinating…
It’s that
everywhere I go I meet smart women
who are what a friend of mine calls "Man
Stupid".
Raise your hand if you’re guilty of
this
yourself.
It’s amazing to me how many brilliant,
smart,
sweet, caring, wise and loving women I’ve met
who have failure
after failure when it comes to
men, dating, and relationships.
And
for these smart women, since they’re so
capable and successful in every other
area of
their life… they can’t believe that they
wouldn’t be able to
make things work with a man
in a relationship.
But here’s the
fatal mistake they make…
They think that the fact that they are
smart,
educated, capable, successful, etc. in other
areas of life should
somehow "translate" into
knowing what to do when it comes to men and
their
love life.
But nothing could be farther from the
truth.
In fact, the belief that you know how things
work with men
and dating just because you’re a
woman and you think about these things all
the
time and you really want love to work out in your
life actually works
against you.
Why does this work against you?
Simply put -
because it keeps you from ever
accepting the fact that you don’t know what
you
need to know about how men think, and how things
work when it comes to
a real and lasting relationship
with a man.
There’s a kind of
subtle shame that I’ve
learned some women carry because they think
that
they were born not knowing something that every
other woman was born
knowing.
Wrong!
Not knowing how men think, and how men
really
are different when it comes to dating and what
catches a his
attention and interest isn’t a
sign of a "dumb" or incapable woman.
It’s simply a sign that you haven’t taken
the time to learn what actually
works.
Tons of new relationships heat up for a few
weeks or months…
and then quickly fall apart
for what seems like no reason.
If you
don’t know how to get things started
with a man… and you think you can
simply
skip the "dating process" and arrive at a
great relationship with a
man, then I don’t have
to tell you how hard things are going to be for
you
with a man - even if he is the right man
for you.
Your Friend,
Christian Carter
